I’m new to this whole blog thing, so bear with me. My husband recently accepted a civilian job overseas. Scary? Definately, but we’ve talked about it and I support him completely. What does that mean for me? A whole year without my soulmate, a whole year trying to shuffle kids, work and things life brings up by myself. But you know, I think I’ll be okay. But during this last week, in anticipation of his deployment date, I can’t help but wonder, does he really know how much I love him, does he really know I’m his number one fan. Time is ticking away and I think, what can I do between now and then to make sure without a shadow of a doubt that he knows these things. Hopefully he knows, but I want to make sure he really knows.
All of this made me think about how sometimes we take for granted that beacuae we’re married, or in a long relationship that the assumption is there of “he knows I love him”. But do I show him, does he know……I hope so because I’m running out of time.
welcome to the blogosphere! i think the number one way you can show him you love him is to be supportive of him – be his biggest chearleader. that doesn’t mean you don’t share any fears or doubts you might have; i think it just makes it more genuine. i know for us, if i just tell michael i support him and don’t share my struggles or concerns it just seems i’m putting up a front, but that i can say, this is hard and i don’t know what it will look like and many days i don’t know how i’ll get through (but i do know i’ll get through) and i do know that i’m behind him and believe this is the right thing for our family and that this is where God wants us – being able to be honest serves a great purpose, it helps us to remain as one; keeps any barriers from developing, and it also keeps me from becoming resentful.
Thanks for the advice. I am his cheerleader, and sometimes I think I’m his only one because many others don’t understand why he wants to do it. He has always talked about an opportunity like this, an opportunity to serve his country! He’s a great man and I know God wouldn’t have brought up this opportunity if HE didn’t think we could all handle it. I know it won’t be easy but then again, nothing ever is.
there will always be people who don’t understand and doubt. but your attitude is great and you just have to remember that those who question do so because they love you.